Becoming a dad is life-changing. But for many of us, it’s not all sunshine and smiles. When I hit my lowest points—battling depression, anxiety, and the heavy silence of trying to stay strong—I found comfort and clarity in words. These ten books became my anchors, and I hope they can help you too.
1. The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk
A deep look into how trauma affects the body and brain. It helped me understand why I felt the way I did.
2. Lost Connections – Johann Hari
This book changed how I think about depression. It’s not just a chemical imbalance—it’s also about disconnection.
3. Reasons to Stay Alive – Matt Haig
Raw, honest, and relatable. Reading Matt Haig’s story felt like having a quiet chat with someone who gets it.
4. Notes on a Nervous Planet – Matt Haig
This one helped me deal with modern stress, social media pressure, and the constant noise of daily life.
5. How to Be Yourself – Ellen Hendriksen
Social anxiety is real. This book gave me tools to handle awkward moments and be okay with who I am.
6. The Chimp Paradox – Dr. Steve Peters
A practical guide to managing your emotions by understanding your “inner chimp.” It made a real difference for me.
7. It’s OK That You’re Not OK – Megan Devine
If you’ve ever felt misunderstood in your grief or pain, this book will validate your experience.
8. Dare – Barry McDonagh
This helped me face anxiety without fear. It’s simple, powerful, and practical.
9. Man’s Search for Meaning – Viktor E. Frankl
Heavy but inspiring. Frankl survived the Holocaust and still found purpose—this one gave me perspective.
10. Unfu*k Yourself – Gary John Bishop
Straight-talking advice for getting out of your own way. Sometimes, we need a push.
💬 Final Thoughts
These books didn’t cure me, but they helped me feel seen. If you’re struggling, start with just one book. Let it speak to you. And know—you’re not alone.
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